Learning Our Self-Worth

For the next few weeks, God’s Girls will be discovering our self-worth, specifically what we are worth to our Creator and King.

This is a timely lesson for a couple of reasons. The first lies with my Emma. A few weeks ago she came downstairs before school frustrated because none of her clothes are cute enough. Now I’ll be the first to admit that I’m not a shopper. I prefer jeans and a t-shirt and I get stubborn as a mule about paying a lot for clothes that are only gonna fit for a few months (not to mention the fact that I refuse to dress my 8 year old like a hoochie-mama.) However, I believe that between my guilt and her aunts, Emma manages to dress nicely most of the time. Anyway, when I asked what the big fuss was about she burst into tears and told me that some of the girls at school make fun of her and she thought if she dressed ‘cuter’ they’d leave her alone.

Now comes the not nice part. I was ready to line up some little girls and start punching. Emma is one of the sweetest, friendliest and most loyal girls I’ve ever known and I’m not saying that just because I’m her mama. Anyone who would pick on her (or let her be picked on) is small, mean and obviously in need of a little love herself.

I didn’t punch anyone. I was good and spoke to Emma about praying for those that hurt us and knowing our true worth, but I can still see her struggling. Which leads me to my second reason. We have a couple of 5th and 6th graders in our group and though I know they were both raised in godly homes where encouragement and love are the norm, I can see they’re struggling with self-worth too. The truth is that we are all struggling with it every day, no matter what our age.

Last night we watched Big Idea’s ‘A Snoodle’s Tale’, the story of Snoodle Doo who learns that it doesn’t matter how others see us because God, our Creator, knows how special and beautiful each of us is. We discussed how it feels when someone puts us down. We discussed how we should treat others who put us down and how we should support our friends when they’re struggling.  We discussed how special God made each one of us.

I challenged the girls to go through the days remembering that all of us feel nervous about something: our hair, our weight, our talents, our smarts, something. I challenge you to do the same.


2 thoughts on “Learning Our Self-Worth

  1. Am I too old to attend these meetings? At age 8I+ I need these lessons in self esteem. I don’t think we ever get away from it. Some of us just always have low self-esteem.

  2. now, mom, you do not have low self esteem, you have an overactive need to be reassured, a scotoma–not being able to see youself as you are–your potential, achievements, habits, attitudes, beliefs and expectations are all excellent, you even know this about youself but in trying to be “meek” you ask for the assureance that you are perfect.
    the concept of self-efficacy is what you need–that old “i can do it” thing,
    you know you can, you even have the energy to, but you need the goal and clarity of how to use it.

    how do i know this???? i got it from you!

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