Thomas is now officially grounded for fighting at school. I honestly think he was as surprised to find himself in that situation, as we were to hear about it. Is this normal? Do good boys get into fights? Do boys with good parents get into fights?
Parents have so much of their own baggage tied up in the actions/experiences of their children: memories of our own childhoods, advice and lessons for being a good parent and expectations for a better experience for our kids. Sometimes it’s really hard to remember that it’s not about us, but about our child and his or her journey. It’s also hard to remember that our job is not to make the journey easier, but to equip the child for any circumstance along the way.
As I said earlier, I know Thomas is a good kid. A great kid actually. I’m really very proud of him. I know that this is just a bump in his road, not a total course change. I know that we can weather this storm and come out the other side the better for it. I just want so badly to make it easy for him. For him to be happy and safe and confident and kind and well liked and well, you know, good. Pray for us.